Why do children bully others? Yeh samajhane ke lie ki doosaron ko dhamakaane vaale bachche kee madad kaise kee jae, aur jo badamaashee kar rahe hain, bully ke vyavahaar ko samajhana mahatvapoorn hai.
Anusandhaan se pata chalata hai ki bullying ke peechhe ke kaaran aaveg niyantran kee kamee aur krodh prabandhan ke muddon se badala lene aur phit hone kee laalasa se kuchh bhee ho sakate hain. Yeh samajhana ki bullies aisa kyon karatee hain, is vyavahaar se nipatane ke tareeke ka maargadarshan kar sakatee hain.
- Power or Control
Children who want to be in control or have power are more likely to be bullies because ve apane jeevan mein kisee bhee power ko mahasoos nahin kar sakate hain, jo ise saamaajik antahkriyaon mein praapt karana adhik aakarshak banaata hai. They may choose physically smaller or less popular children to bully because they are stronger than them, or pick on girls through using gossip, put-downs, social pressure, exclusion, and other indirect social tactics.
Sometimes, when a child has been a victim of bullying, they look for ways to get back at the person or get revenge. Ye bachche aksar apane kaaryon mein uchit mahasoos karate hain kyonki unhen bhee pareshaan aur prataadit kiya gaya hai.
When they bully others, they may feel a sense of relief or feel like they have received justice for what they went through. Sometimes, these children target someone weaker or more vulnerable than them, and other times, they can even go after the person who bullied them.
- Problems at Home
Children from abusive homes are more likely to bully because aggression and violence are a standard part of their life. Jab maata-pita apane bachchon kee paryaapt dekhabhaal nahin karate hain, to ve badamaashee ka sahaara le sakate hain kyonki yah unhen shakti aur niyantran kee bhaavana deta hai, jisakee unake apane jeevan mein kamee hai.
When a child is being bullied by their siblings, it makes them feel powerless. Uss bhaavana ko punah praapt karane ke lie, ye bachche phir doosaron ko dhamakaate hain, kabhee-kabhee apane bade bhaee ke kaaryon ka anukaran bhee karate hain.
Bachchon ke lie apane saathiyon ko dhamakaana asaamaany nahin hai jo kisee tarah se alag hain. For instance, children may be targeted because they have special needs, may not be doing well in school, belong to a particular religion or caste, or have a different gender identity or sexual orientation. Kisee prakaar ka poorvaagrah aksar badamaashee kee jad mein hota hai. Yahaan bullying kuchh aisee cheejon ke kaaran ho rahee hai jo bachche ko sikhaee gaee hain, jisase ve un logon ko dekhane lagate hain jinhen ve dhamakaate hain.
- Peer Pressure
Children may also bully others in order to fit in with a group of friends, bhale hee isaka arth apane svayan ke moolyon ke viruddh jaana ho. Bullying ke parinaamon ke baare mein chintit hone kee tulana mein ye bachche phit hone aur sveekaar kie jaane se adhik chintit hain.
Children may also bully because they are simply spending time with the wrong people. Vveekaar nahin kie jaane ka dar ya agala lakshy banane ka dar bachchon ko samoohon mein dhamakaane ke lie prerit kar sakata hai.
Bullies may not even understand that their behavior is wrong or know how the victim feels. Jabaki aisee kaee cheejen hain jo ek bachche ko kisee ko dhamakaane ka kaaran ban sakatee hain, isaka matalab yah nahin hai ki unake lie aisa karana theek hai.
Yadi aapake bachche ko dhamakaaya ja raha hai, to unhen vah sahaayata praapt karane den jisakee unhen aavashyakata hai. You can contact their school (if it is happening at school) and help them reach out to a counselor if needed. Unakee baat sunen aur unhen bataen ki aap unake lie hain. Jor den ki yah unakee galatee nahin hai. Help your child stay safe.